Tackling Our Demons

Our inner demons... you know, those things that stall us, stop us mid-stride. They can be the result of failing a test and the resulting voice that says, "You're not worthy," or the loss of a job, "You're a failure," or the loss of a loved one, "You're alone now." Every trauma has a demon, every action a reaction, every choice a consequence. Our lives are filled with a variety of traumas, big and small. We can stand mid-stream and watch the rushing water or we can brace ourselves and propel forward.

In examining my own life path I find my most traumatic experience was the passing of my mother. And my demon? Oh yeah, that voice was loud and clear inside my head, "This is not fair! How can she die? Who will teach me? Who will listen? How will I cope?" When she was diagnosed with cancer, I did the only thing I knew to do to quiet that voice in my head...I wrote.  I did it without thinking. It was my go-to source for clearing my brain, my personal escape - a place where I could dump all my thoughts, feelings and unutterable words - a place to discover my opinions and draw conclusions - a place...a space for contemplation. There were things I was feeling but didn't want to share or couldn't bring myself to share. Through the writing came understanding and insight, peace of mind and clarity, acceptance of the situation and of myself in it. To say that it was healing is an understatement. I continue to journal even now whenever there is something I am struggling with, when the voice in my head begins to doubt, is lost or frustrated. I discovered by chance what others are now discovering through scientific research - writing has healing properties.

In the book Expressive Writing, Words that Heal, authors James Pennebaker and John Evans document the proven health benefits of expressive writing. All good news for those brave enough to pick up the pen and discover what is hidden in the confines of their own minds.

• People go to the doctor less
  • "General enhancement in immune function"
  • "Enhances emotion regulation"
  • People managing chronic illness experience multiple health improvements including reduction in overall pain and better sleep
  • Reduced stress, lower blood pressure
  • Psychological changes
    • In the short-term, people report an increase in sadness but this is quickly followed with the explanation "sadder but wiser"
    • In the longer-term people report "feeling happier and less negative"
    • Reduction in "depressive symptoms, rumination, and general anxiety"
    • Behavioral changes
      • "Emotional writing boosts people's working memory" which improves ones ability to tackle more complicated issues
      • Our engagement with others becomes more open and engaging
      • Studies demonstrate a reduction in "anger, depression and PTSD symptoms

So, try a little experiment: Take 15-20 minutes out of your day to put pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard) and write about whatever comes into your head - no judgement, just write. After a week's worth of writing, take a look back at what you have. What do you see? How do you feel? What have you learned? Then let us all know the results...